I have just returned from a 9 day vacation that reminded me that I work to live. Unfortunately I had forgotten this old adage and was taking my job much too seriously and had begun living to work. No matter what you do for a job, it is a job, and should only be one facet of your multifaceted life. I am sure controlling Department Heads are all grimacing as they hear someone actually say this out loud. If your current job is all-encompassing in your life and you gain credibility there by “not having a life” and always responding to the wacko CEO’s 2:00 a.m. email messages, I urge you to get professional help. Okay, maybe professional help is overly dramatic but you really need to take a long hard look at how you are spending your precious energy.
The lesson about this that I have had to learn over and over again is the more you work the more your peers and superiors expect you to do. Your internal message is “I am showing them what a team player I am” or “I am showing them how invaluable I am”, but neither of these messages are how your Boss views you. In the worst environments your Boss laughs behind your back about how much you take on and is placing bets on when you’ll crack. In the best environments your Boss is concerned about your lack of a life beyond work and questions your judgement. Either way this all absorbed approach to your job only results in burnout and a tremendous drain of your precious energy. Make a change before you suffer health problems, family problems, or lose it from having a boring existence.
As a person, who forgot to keep a balance, I state with the inner peace of a wonderful vacation, I am more valuable as an employee because I have a calm, clear perspective on the issues that I faced this week at work instead of the “OMG it’s a crisis, what will we do about this” approach I had before my vacation. Keep your perspective and remember they are lucky to have you and your skill set at your job. Remember that your outside of work life contributes to your work performance by keeping your outlook clear. If your response to that statement is you would lose your job if you acted in that way, Houston we have a problem. You are already in a toxic work environment and I suspect you are not valued as a whole person. So take a break from your 2:00 a.m. response to the CEO’s latest “critical issue” and do something novel like get a good night’s rest. If you do this three days in a row I predict your perspective will change and I suspect you will change your life and love it.